JEALOUSY

Professional Jealousy? Cops Probe Whether Lawyer Who Shot Judge’s Family Killed Rival Attorney

Investigators are trying to determine whether the anti-feminist lawyer who allegedly shot up a New Jersey federal judge’s family had a hand in the similar death of a rival attorney a week earlier.

In one of his online screeds, “men’s rights” lawyer Roy Den Hollander made it clear he blamed U.S. District Judge Esther Salas for robbing him of a legal victory that instead was claimed by activist California attorney Marc Angelucci.

Den Hollander did not name Angelucci in his bile-filled memoir, but law-enforcement sources told The Daily Beast that papers mentioning Angelucci were found in or around the car where Den Hollander killed himself on Monday.

In addition, the head of the organization that Angelucci belonged to revealed that Den Hollander was ousted from the group several years ago because “he was a nut job.”

The San Bernardino County Sheriff’s office, which was investigating Angelucci’s slaying is now referring all inquiries to the FBI in New Jersey, which is probing the shooting of Salas’ husband and son.

As The Daily Beast was first to report, Den Hollander is suspected of ringing the doorbell at Salas’ home on Sunday evening, dressed as a FedEx delivery person, and shooting her husband and her 20-year-old son. The son died.

Den Hollander, 72, had helped bring a lawsuit—challenging the U.S. Military’s male-only draft registration—that ended up in Salas’ courtroom in 2015.

In his 1,700-page online “book,” Den Hollander complained that Salas took too long to rule on his lawsuit, brought on behalf of a 17-year-old girl who said she should be allowed to register.

“Compare three years of motions to dismiss in Salas’s Court to the case in the U.S. Southern District Court of Texas on exactly the same issue of the draft registration statute violating the Equal Protection Clause of the Constitution,” he wrote.

“That case had been transferred to Texas by the California court. The only difference in the Texas case was that two guys were the plaintiffs and a white 70 year-old man was the judge. After about a year and a half, the Texas case moved into the second inning—summary judgment. We, however, were still in the first inning fighting over DOJ’s fourth motion to dismiss. Just unbelievable, by now we should have been knocking on the U.S. Supreme Court’s door, but lady unluck stuck us with an Obama appointee.”

The lawyer in the Texas case was Angelucci. And in February, he made headlines when the Texas judge handed him a huge win, declaring the all-male draft discriminated against men.

Five months later, Angelucci was dead—gunned down at his home in Crestline, California. The San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Office had made no arrests in the case by the time Den Hollander darkened the doorstep of the Salas home.

Investigators in New York noted the similarities between the attacks and are actively seeking any other possible links.

“It is too much of a coincidence,” one investigator told The Daily Beast on Tuesday.

Angelucci, 52, was the founder of the National Coalition for Men’s Los Angeles chapter and had appeared in the controversial documentary Red Pill about men’s rights activists. Both he and Den Hollander had been involved in similar types of legal challenges over the years, though Angelucci had more success and was behind a law firm launched by the coalition.

Harry Crouch, the head of the men’s coalition, told CBS affiliate KCAL that when he heard of Den Hollander’s alleged involvement in the Salas crime he “immediately saw a link” to Angelucci’s murder.

“But I want to be real clear, he’s not a NCFM member. Why isn’t he? Because I threw him out five or six years ago, because he was a nut job,” Crouch said, adding that Den Hollander had been removed from the coalition board for threatening him.

After Den Hollander ambushed Salas’ family, investigators say, he drove to the Catskill Mountains in upstate New York and shot himself in the head with a .380 Walther pistol. He had with him a FedEx package addressed to the judge, apparently a prop he intended to use to get face-to-face with her, but she was in the basement when he showed up and opened fire.

His online writings reveal that at the time he killed himself, Den Hollander was already facing a death sentence: He had been diagnosed with late-stage melanoma.

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How To Stop Jealousy From Destroying Your Relationship

 Jealousy is a normal human emotion, but one that can ruin even the strongest relationships if it is left to grow and fester. Photo: Shutterstock

It is natural for us to feel a little jealous in a relationship sometimes, but it's important to get a hold on it and not let a twinge of jealousy blow out of proportion and consume us.

People sometimes think jealousy is a way to show a partner that they are desired or cared for, but more often than not, jealousy is driven by poor self-image, a lack of trust or other underlying relationship problems.

Occasionally, it could spice up mundane routines, arouse your feelings and add a bit of excitement to your relationship, but only if it doesn't get out of hand and become destructive.

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First and foremost, we need to understand the underlying causes of jealousy in a relationship. According to clinical psychologist Dr Monica Borschel, jealousy could be a false or real alarm.

"A false alarm might look like low self-worth or attachment anxiety in the jealous partner. Attachment anxiety is a deep feeling that the person you love won't be there for you when you need them.

"A real alarm for the jealous partner might be one of the following: your partner devalues you, isolates you, tries to control you, is cheating or has cheated on you. When a relationship doesn't feel secure to both partners, jealousy can happen."

 © Provided by South China Morning Post More often than not, jealousy is driven by poor self-image, a lack of trust or other underlying relationship problems. Photo: Shutterstock

Borschel explains that jealousy is a normal human emotion that we have evolved to protect or guard our mate. "Evolutionary psychologists have found that women are more likely to be hurt by emotional affairs because that might mean a loss of resources for their own child," she says.

"In comparison, men might be more jealous of physical affairs because they do not want to raise another man's child. Of course, this is an overgeneralisation and might vary. Natural jealousy can be spoken about and resolved with your partner. Even in healthy and secure relationships, it is reasonable to find other people attractive. It is one thing to note someone's attraction and another to act on it."

Borschel says jealousy could be indicative of other underlying issues. "Interdependent people tend to value and prioritise their relationships more than independent people. Interdependence is having your own hobbies, goals, and identity; a relationship where both partners can rely on each other for emotional and physical needs."

But when people are too independent, they might have a fear of intimacy. This can trigger feelings of neglect and jealousy in the other partner.

"And when people are codependent, they may also become jealous if they feel that they are not receiving enough attention. Lying, flirting and cheating are more obvious reasons as to why people become jealous."

 © Provided by South China Morning Post Jealousy could be indicative of other underlying issues. Illustration: Marcelo Duhalde

But if the relationship is secure, then both partners are able to speak openly about what is making them jealous. One person can hear it and acknowledge it and an open conversation is able to happen, she explains.

On the other hand, if your partner is checking your phone, stalking you, isolating you or interrogating you, it might be a red flag of a problem beyond jealousy. These are signs that you might be headed towards an abusive relationship, Borschel warns.

She advises on how to deal with extreme jealousy as it could indicate some serious problems in your relationship.

 © Provided by South China Morning Post Monica Borschel is a clinical psychologist at Hong Kong's Mindnlife clinic.

"If one partner has cheated, the extreme jealousy can make sense. If there is extreme jealousy without any lying or cheating, it might be a red flag that the jealous partner is actually the one cheating or lying. Sometimes, people project their own behaviour onto others," Borschel points out.

"Extreme jealousy can also be a red flag that your partner needs control to feel safe. Be cautious of control tactics that use manipulation, isolation or intimidation to keep you in the relationship."

If you wonder whether a jealous partner can really change or they might just be suppressing their feelings, there is good and bad news.

"If a person is jealous because of low self-worth or attachment anxiety, they can change by working on their own self-worth and value. But if a partner is controlling, this is harder to change. If someone is suppressing their jealous feelings, it might come out as passive-aggressive comments, neglect and punishing behaviours. Jealousy is on a spectrum and has many underlying factors."

How to deal with your partner's flaws and strengthen the love you have

Borschel offers some words of advice to the jealous partner and the other at the receiving end.

"If you are feeling jealous, it is crucial to address what the underlying issues are. Do you tend to be insecure in relationships in general? If so, is it related to a feeling of low self-worth, a need for control, your attachment style or are you genuinely being cheated on?"

And for the person who feels that their partner is too jealous, her advice is: "Ask yourself if they are trying to control you by isolating you. Or are they jealous because you have not been honest with them?"

 © Provided by South China Morning Post Trust and empathy are essential for any relationship to work. Photo: Shutterstock

If your partner has attachment anxiety, ask them how they can feel more secure and work with them to improve the situation, she says.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship and it must be a mutual feeling for it to work. You also need to trust yourself before you can trust your partner because you can't give what you don't have. Once trust is established, you can work on making your partner feel secure.

Luisa Tam is a correspondent at the Post

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Trump Cancels Yankee Opening Pitch He Was Never Even Invited To. Officials Tell The New York Times He Made Remarks Over Jealousy Of Fauci.

President Donald Trump was never actually invited to pitch for the Yankees on August 15, The New York Times reported. 

Officials were shocked to hear Trump's announcement that he would be pitching at the game, and that he had canceled the event. 

One official told The Times, Trump was jealous of the attention Dr. Anthony Fauci was receiving for throwing the ceremonial pitch at the opening of the 2020 Major League Baseball season. 

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President Donald Trump was annoyed with the attention Dr. Anthony Fauci was receiving for throwing the ceremonial pitch at the opening of the 2020 Major League Baseball season that he decided to announce he was also invited to pitch for the Yankees next month, an official told The New York Times. 

Despite his announcement and later cancellation of this event, Trump was reportedly never actually invited to pitch on that date. 

Last week Trump announced that he was invited by Yankees President Randy Levine to throw out the first pitch at the game against the Boston Red Sox. 

"Randy Levine is a great friend of mine from the Yankees," Trump told reporters on Thursday as Fauci was getting ready to throw out his first pitch, The Times reported."And he asked me to throw out the first pitch, and I think I'm doing that on August 15 at Yankee Stadium."

However, on Sunday, Trump said he was no longer going to be throwing the pitch because he was too busy. 

"Because of my strong focus on the China Virus, including scheduled meetings on Vaccines, our economy and much else, I won't be able to be in New York to throw out the opening pitch for the @Yankees on August 15th." he wrote in a tweet."We will make it later in the season!"

According to The Times, both Trump's announcement that he was pitching at the event, and that he was no longer attending surprised officials on the baseball team and in the White House. 

After he said he would be pitching, Trump reportedly directed aides to call Yankees officials to arrange the matter since Levine has previously offered to have the president throw an opening pitch but no final plans or a date was ever finalized. White House aides then spent the weekend on the phone with Yankee officials to convince them that Trump was actually booked for August 15, the Times reported.

According to the Times, Trump was concerned that Fauci, who was asked to pitch by the family of the Washington Nationals owner Ted Lerner weeks ago after he advised them on how to handle the coronavirus outbreak, would "upstage" him. 

While Fauci's pitch that day did not go so well, a baseball card with a picture of the top infectious disease expert mid-pitch that day was the all-time bestseller for ToppsNow.

Trump, who has long pushed to reopen the country before public health experts deemed it safe, and has in the past advocated against masks, peddled conspiracy theories on the virus, and even suggested people use with UV light inside the body to rid themselves of the virus, has tried to push back against the warnings and advice of Fauci. 

However, Trump seems to have changed course on the way he speaks about the coronavirus, mainly due to the impact the response to the pandemic is having on his re-election chances.

According to data from John Hopkins University close to 4.3 million Americans have been infected with the coronavirus, and more than 147,500 people have died. 

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